Even after carefully rehearsing the format of writing this article, in my head, I am having an awfully difficult time typing it down. So I hope it progresses well.
One of my latest paintings “The Crowd” is displayed above. It’s an abstract piece, so you can choose to interpret it however you like. A couple of people I asked said they could see diversity, rain drops, UN, a running animal somewhere in the middle there and a sense of depth…among others. I’d love it if you shared what you see in the comments below. For the record, this painting really made my very first happy client. Yay! 🙂
Now without much ado, recently I have read and heard about this whole deal to “normalize nakedness“. It surely took me by surprise. The argument was that, several people who couple with their significant others eventually dump their mates due to the fact that their bodies were not what they expected them to be. Meaning to say that the photographs (especially of the lady) before copulation enhanced a promising experience of all rounded perfection based on what the society today has deemed to be perfect, alluring and seductive. Now, by enhancing this movement to “normalize nakedness“, it may reduce the occasions to which the ladies are ditched for not possessing the “perfect” body, or so they say.
No offence intended, but I found this thought quite absurd. Absurd that for people to accept your body state, it is necessary for you to show the world the naked you. Problem is, most of us fail to distinguish between love and lust. Love, an intense feeling of deep affection (regardless of the other’s appearance and physique). Lust, a very strong sexual desire for someone (solely based on their looks). If you base your affection for someone on his or her looks, you are bound to eventually lose interest, and move on to “better things”, or people for that matter. Love, however, sees beyond the physical, and seeks to find something deeper: character, for instance. What I imagined to be a probable end result to “normalizing nakedness“, is that the society will get used to the reality of how the woman’s body looks like (why though?) and then either strive to rather blindly look for the perfect one, or voluntarily not stop disrespecting women. “Normalizing nakedness” does not cause its hearers to love instead of lust others, thus a common misconception lives on.
I would like to believe that each of us is like an individual, undisturbed brushstroke making up “The Crowd”, hence together, in our uniqueness, we for something beautiful. This goes without having all the colors merged up to form a uniform image, as if yielding to the the society’s definition of what beauty is, or is meant to be. Sometimes having a very racist implication to it. If anything, it is very unfair to judge people based on their looks. Besides, none of us had much of an option when the genes did what they had to at the beginning of time, right? And with this clouded judgement of what beauty should be sinking deep into our minds, we end up missing friendship opportunities with really nice and lovable people because our expectations are way too ridiculous. Unless we rid this stereotype of having to expose one’s nudity so enhance other people’s acceptance of oneself, we are doing ourselves a great dishonor.
In the process I’m drawn to think that decency of dress could possibly be a way to prevent someone to like you for your looks, for in this case, the first thing they find appealing in you many not necessarily be you body shape, but who you really are as a person (story for another day I guess). In my experience, people tend to approach me more when my hair is open and all over the place (I kinda have big hair, so…yeah), than when my hair is neatly tied or plaited and I look like a potato. Either way, if there is something we should all be advocates of true, genuine love, which doesn’t have physical appearance as its foundation and neither should it be a bias to one’s judgement. This will generally cause people to be less driven by the idea that “my significant other should be the definition of the “perfect, ideal body”” and instead make us a people which will love without limits, even when one of her breasts is strongly under the influence of gravity while the other isn’t, you see someone who deserves to be respected and loved regardless of the body he or she is in. Even so, it starts with the knowledge that accepting who you are as an individual is key, and your body isn’t going anywhere. So you might as well embrace it soon enough. Knowing that it is not necessary for someone to compliment you or your features for your personal perception of your body to be true, and that means that you won’t necessarily have to share a nude photograph to the world to absolutely feel the acceptance. Once you come to terms with yourself, everybody else’s opinions just has a minimal influence and impact on you.
Remember, self love is not selfish. And it is only after loving yourself that you can love the people around you. Lust? Let’s throw that in the trash can, shall we?